In life, we are with God. We get to enjoy His creation, His domain, and His grace.
But we start off dead to Him - separated from Him - not connected with Him.
And we need to be connected to Him to live. Just like our spirit must be connected to our body to live.
He loves us and pursues us, and He offers salvation and connection - BUT He will only go ahead and connect with us if we accept Him. If we chooses to stop pushing away and telling us no.
Because He's a gentleman.
He's the One who decided that "no means no" is a good boundary to have.